The topic says it all, doesn’t it.

To be absolutely honest I hadn’t thought about consciously educating Dev on this topic all this while. So when I got tagged by Anjana, I wanted to test Dev, to see what he thinks about it or if he thinks about it at all.

Lets talk colors:

Dev has a pink lunch box that he has been using for a long time now. It was a gift from a friend and not once has he ever questioned the choice.

He has a tricycle that is Pink, Purple and flowery that he picked out himself during our time in Nigeria and he rides it till date. Oh and he also owns a variety of kitchen sets including the ones that I owned as a child and he plays with them as frequently as he plays with his Lego blocks.

He owns a lot of pink shirts and so does K. The boys really love the color and have never felt it being linked to any particular gender.

Dev also loves flowers and helps me pick flowers in our terrace garden. He even takes them to school sometimes for his teacher. Oh, and butterflies!! Who doesn’t love them!! 🙂

I guess I have done a decent job of not associating any particular color to any particular gender.

Lets talk roles:

K and I were talking with Dev the other day and we asked him what he would want to be once he grows up. His reply was quick. He wants to be a Soldier in the Indian Army. So K asked Dev, what do you think Diya would want to be. His reply was same. He said, Diya will drive an battle tank and he will drive an army truck. K and I were impressed with his answer but we didn’t show it out because appreciating him on his thoughts would acknowledge the fact that these roles are gender biased.

Now that is the beauty of a child’s mind. It is pure and innocent. They don’t have these preset notions unless its being forced on them by us adults.

So what do you do as Parents to maintain this innocence ?

Work as a team. Try to alternate roles. Let there be no task that is specific to mommy or daddy. For example, both K and I are working. We both carry our wallets wherever we go. We both pay bills. We both frequent the gym. K and I work together when it comes to household chores like cooking, cleaning, etc. We also play basketball and cricket together with Dev. K takes care of Diya as well as I do. He can bathe her, change diapers, clothes, give her meds , make her sleep all by himself. So in no way Dev sees a difference in the roles we perform. The only thing that Dev prevents me from doing is changing the bubble top in the water dispenser because its too heavy for me. And that is perfectly alright!

So I do believe that we are raising #aGenerationWithoutGenderBias and the future is gonna be Oh So Beautiful!


I Love You, Man

Yes !!! You read that right. I’m here today to celebrate the men who let me be this Strong Independent Woman that I am so proud of today. Especially with International Women’s Day nearing, I am going to be flooded with messages wishing me, more so now, because I am a working mom of two, living in a nuclear family setup, juggling all of my roles with ease. But, what about the men in my life who have helped me become the person I am today?? My Father, My Husband and My Son!!

So here I am, giving these genuinely good men a few privileges, that I have had a chance to enjoy, being a Woman:

Help is Always around the corner

Have you observed that being women, if we are ever in some sort of trouble, there are always people around who are willing to help?! People like falling for the “damsel in distress” card. They also like to give the benefit of the doubt to women in any situation. I would like you to have this privilege, for whenever you get into a tricky situation and could use some help.

Choosing Your Career Without any Financial Pressure

Yes, times are changing. You are likely to experience this privilege in a few decades. But for now, I would like you to have the option of deciding your career based on your preference and flexibility and not under the pressure of being the bread winner of the family. I hope, no one will call you a loser, if you choose to not have a career, and contribute to your family.


I have always felt that being Men, you haven’t been given enough credit. We talk about equality and sharing the work load, both at home and outside. But when you see a working mom juggling all her roles, you go ahead and appreciate her. Why is a working dad never appreciated? Does he not get the kids ready to school? Does he not change diapers? Does he not drop the kids off to school? Does he not take them to the umpteen number of extra curricular classes that your child goes to? Does he not help you take out the trash or cook? When was the last time he was appreciated? I would like to appreciate you, Men, for being the givers that you are, never expecting anything in return.


Men are always judged based on their availability for their family. If he accompanies his kids to birthday parties, he is considered jobless, and singled out in a group of moms. If he doesn’t accompany for doc appointments, he is judged for not being available for his family (and you pity his wife). Men are also not allowed to be cranky or moody unlike women. He is judged to be short tempered and emotionally unavailable. I wish people gave you the benefit of the doubt before making judgements. Maybe you took the kid to the party coz your son wanted you to be there to introduce you to his friends. Maybe you missed the doc appointment coz you were stuck with an important business meeting and you trust your wife to handle things well. Maybe secretly even you want to just quit everything and spend all your time with your family but you can’t coz life doesn’t always work that way.

Maternity Benefits

Like maternity leaves policy in India, I wish you had an equally long period of Paternity Leave to just bond with your baby all day long, to take a break from the routine and to just experience the joy that a baby brings to your life. You probably missed your child’s first words and most milestones. I wish you had the privilege to just stay at home and enjoy your time with this little piece of your heart thats growing so fast each day, for just 6 months, and get back to work feeling more energized than ever before.

To the men in my lives,


This blog post is a part of #womensdayblogparty.

I’d like to thank Amitoj for introducing me.

She is a dentist by profession but currently raising her 3 year old son being a SAHM. Being a voracious reader herself, she makes sure to read to her son every day and wants him to love books. She has written a heartfelt letter to her son as part of this blog party. Wanna read?? Click here

I’d also like to introduce my friend Cheni. She is a mom of a one year old and has written a loving letter to her darling daughter. Wanna read??? Click here

Every Superhero Needs a Costume, This Is Mine

Life hasn’t been the same in the last four/five months. Yes, I had a baby. If you have been following me on Instagram and Facebook you would have seen some really cute and heart melting moments of Dev (4yo son) and Diya (4mo daughter) bonding. Life feels complete. Each moment seems happy. But behind all those cute, happy, awwwww moments is also a lot of hardwork, multitasking, physical and mental stress involved.

The most important thing to remember when you are a mom who balances so many things at once is the word “EASY

Keep trying to find the answer to this question – “How do I make my life easier?” in difficult situations and *BOOM* your problem is solved!

So here are some of those challenges I faced as a mom of two, living in a nuclear family, with K(my husband) being super occupied with his work(read unavailable, not that I’m complaining):

1st Challenge:

My mornings start with getting Dev ready for school and dropping him off at this school van pickup point near my house. As I can’t leave Diya home alone, I need to carry her too to drop off Dev. I also need to hold Dev’s bag while we are waiting. So both my hands are full right now and the Van arrives. Just then I remember that I have to lift Dev and help him get into the van as well. Now that’s the challenge.

Things to carry:

Diya, Dev’s bag and Dev

So how do I make my life easy?

Babywearing to the rescue!! Both hands free!! Problem solved!! Life made “EASY”!!

2nd Challenge:

After your second delivery, you may want to stay at home all day long doing nothing, (coz you’re on Maternity Leave after all) but not Dev. He wants to play. He craves the outdoor. You can’t make a child study or do constructive activities(like coloring, building blocks etc) at home all the time. You don’t want him to get hooked onto television either.

What do you do?

You take him out to play.

Things to carry:

Diya and Dev’s bat/ball/scooter/cycle, etc. (sometimes all of it at once)

So how do you make life easy?

Babywearing to the rescue!! Both hands free!! Problem solved!! Life made “EASY”!!

3rd Challenge:

With two kids you might want to give up on your social life, but hey, your son is just building one of his own!!! Now that requires him to attend all the birthday parties of his friends. And no, you can’t fool them. Like women, kids talk!!! If they find out that they missed a party because of you, be sure that he is going to bring this up every single day of your life going forward in every other argument!!!

What do you do?

You have to go to the party.

Things to carry:

Diya, a bag(with your world in it), birthday gift (onward journey), return gift, bday cap and balloons(return journey)

So how do you make life easy?

Babywearing to the rescue!! Both hands free!! Problem solved!! Life made “EASY”!!

4th Challenge:

There are times when you need to step out for either shopping (trust me I don’t step out to shop unless it is really important) or hospital visits or a trip to your parent’s place.

Things I need to carry:

Diya, a bag (with my world in it) and I also need to hold Dev’s hand so he doesn’t get lost

So how do I make my life easy?

Babywearing to the rescue!! Both hands free!! Problem solved!! Life made “EASY”!!

5th Challenge:

Being a mom ain’t easy. Not one bit. But to keep myself going I need to stay fit which is the most important thing. If I’m healthy I know that I will keep my family healthy and safe. So instead of giving excuses and binging on food I have made a promise to myself that I will walk on my terrace every night.

How Life has gotten “EASY”?

I just need to wear Diya and walk with Dev!!! We are in no rush! We just walk slowly on our terrace in whichever direction the wind blows telling each other stories, singing songs. This is also the time when me and Dev count the number of flights that take off from Chennai airport. Before you know it, Diya sleeps off. We get back home and put her in bed.

Have I told you how cool soul AnoonA transfers are? No? Well stay tuned for my review of AnoonA coming up real soon!!

Blogging? Why now?

Life has been  really eventful lately. Especially from the time I got married. In roughly about 5-6 years, between one husband, two kids and three places I’ve had some great (and not so great) experiences.

I realized the other day how much I love telling these stories, How these experiences have shaped me to be the person I am today, and how these stories could actually help someone else in need.

{No, I am not going to give mommy advises. That is not what I do. I believe in hands-on parenting, but that topic is for another day and another post 😉 }

What I will be sharing is:

  • a glimpse into my world
  • some sweet and bitter sweet experiences of mine
  • random deep thoughts that hit my brain  (not too serious , i promise)
  • probably a recipe or two
  • anything and everything fun that I experience

So now that I have answered the questions I had put forth to myself and gained some perspective, I am pretty excited to start my journey as a blogger!!

I hope you guys enjoy reading my posts as much as I enjoy compiling them for you!