The topic says it all, doesn’t it.
To be absolutely honest I hadn’t thought about consciously educating Dev on this topic all this while. So when I got tagged by Anjana, I wanted to test Dev, to see what he thinks about it or if he thinks about it at all.
Lets talk colors:
Dev has a pink lunch box that he has been using for a long time now. It was a gift from a friend and not once has he ever questioned the choice.
He has a tricycle that is Pink, Purple and flowery that he picked out himself during our time in Nigeria and he rides it till date. Oh and he also owns a variety of kitchen sets including the ones that I owned as a child and he plays with them as frequently as he plays with his Lego blocks.
He owns a lot of pink shirts and so does K. The boys really love the color and have never felt it being linked to any particular gender.
Dev also loves flowers and helps me pick flowers in our terrace garden. He even takes them to school sometimes for his teacher. Oh, and butterflies!! Who doesn’t love them!! 🙂
I guess I have done a decent job of not associating any particular color to any particular gender.
Lets talk roles:
K and I were talking with Dev the other day and we asked him what he would want to be once he grows up. His reply was quick. He wants to be a Soldier in the Indian Army. So K asked Dev, what do you think Diya would want to be. His reply was same. He said, Diya will drive an battle tank and he will drive an army truck. K and I were impressed with his answer but we didn’t show it out because appreciating him on his thoughts would acknowledge the fact that these roles are gender biased.
Now that is the beauty of a child’s mind. It is pure and innocent. They don’t have these preset notions unless its being forced on them by us adults.
So what do you do as Parents to maintain this innocence ?
Work as a team. Try to alternate roles. Let there be no task that is specific to mommy or daddy. For example, both K and I are working. We both carry our wallets wherever we go. We both pay bills. We both frequent the gym. K and I work together when it comes to household chores like cooking, cleaning, etc. We also play basketball and cricket together with Dev. K takes care of Diya as well as I do. He can bathe her, change diapers, clothes, give her meds , make her sleep all by himself. So in no way Dev sees a difference in the roles we perform. The only thing that Dev prevents me from doing is changing the bubble top in the water dispenser because its too heavy for me. And that is perfectly alright!
So I do believe that we are raising #aGenerationWithoutGenderBias and the future is gonna be Oh So Beautiful!